In today's world people are "hanging out" more than they are dating. There are different reasons for this such as they can be themselves more, or you get to know more people, or they don't have the possibility of being rejected. The question is though does hanging out provide the same information that dating does when you are searching for your future spouse. I would say no. Dating provides more opportunities to see that person in different situations and to give both the male and the female a chance to gain and strengthen the skills they will use throughout marriage. There is a theory on what dating is it is called the 3 P's. This means that a date must be 1) planned 2) paid for and 3) paired off. Keep in mind that paid for does not mean that it has to be a big expensive activity it just means that financially it is taken care of. These three things are a way for the male to practice some things that they need in marriage. The chart below will show what these are:
Dating: Marriage:
Planned Preside
Paid for Provide
Paired off Protect
Gaining these skills will greatly benefit you in your marriage and in your life. While the guy can practice these skills the girl has the opportunity to practice skills such as nurturing and caring. Another reason why this is so helpful is because it gives you the opportunity to have togetherness, time, and the chance to talk. All three of these things help you to get to know the person better. Nobody wants to marry someone they don't know and care about. One final note that I want to make is something my teacher shared with us about how going on dates affects you. What he said was "your marriage will go the way you point it during dating and courtship." I thought this was cool because he made an analogy between this and a cannon ball. You can aim it whichever direction you choose and once you shoot it will continue going that way. It goes whichever way you aim it in the beginning. So be brave and don't be afraid to date.
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